Success in business doesn't always translate to success in the bedroom, especially for women

Depending on your perspective, I've been blessed or cursed to have traveled extensively. I've worn out passports and have had to add pages to my existing passport. But just because I've traveled the globe doesn't mean it has been leisure travel. Most of my miles have been collected on business trips. And many of those have been less than glamorous. 

Argentina? Lovely country. Wonderful people. Fabulous sights. Or so I'm told. For me, a visit there is a working trip. Imagine flying overnight from the US to Buenos Aires, spending an entire day in meetings, then flying at night to Sao Paulo for yet another day of meetings, and then flying back to the US – all without every having set foot in a single hotel room.

Glamorous? I think not.

Like I said, there's often a serious price to be paid for all those passport stamps.

Nonetheless, deals get done, money gets made, and promotions (or perhaps job security) follow.

But rest assured, your sex life suffers, particularly if you're a woman.

If you're aggressive and you "Lean In," as we've been advised to do, you are perceived as a "bitch"or being too pushy. Guys do it all the time, but women are frequently penalized for pushing back or taking a stand. 

To be sure, it takes a special kind of man or woman to want to share intimacy with a hard-edged business woman, partly because she's afraid to let down her guard, and partly because she has high expectations. Trust me when I say that some lovers of strong women are fearful of having to undergo a post-sex performance review. Sort of ruins the afterglow, if you know what I mean.

And what of discretion? In business we strive for transparency (or at the very least we give it lip service), but in our personal life, and especially our sex life, we desire discretion. We prefer to not have our sex life overlap our work life. 

So what do we do? How do we get our groove on without the fallout? That's been a question many of my corporate gal-pals have pondered and discussed. 

There's no easy answer. Sex with business associates is out. Sex with total strangers is risky. Sex with paid escorts or gigolos is a possibility, but it's also illegal, and the thought of getting busted makes it a no-go strategy. But I'm a business person with a problem-solving mentality. In my mind I saw the concept of the Executive Travel Club. By having professional business women join an organization that legitimately arranges travel, and also provides professional drivers/security personnel, I saw a way that my friends could, as I like to say, get everything they desire. That these benefits might also include a bi-product of discreet, consensual sex is merely a happy coincidence.

Sounds like a win-win-win to me.

So I'm hopeful the idea of XTC Destinations proves to be a win-win-win for you as well.

​Because if you're a woman in business, even a home business, you deserve to get everything you desire.